<3 I would do the same for you. At this moment though, thankfully, crisis
is averted! Yesterday, my landlord offered to return as much of my security
deposit (9K total) as we needed to pull us through this event. Travel and
missed work (loss of pay). She returned Aug. rent and said she'd pull it
from our deposit, but likely "just don't worry about it". I feel so
blessed, not only that I COULD put down such a big security deposit, for
moments like this, but also that I was privileged enough to have family who
can help create that security for me, and a landlord who is so kind and
merciful.
Thats what Im thinking, though, still. Calling the church she used to
attend all her life, and see if they could offer end-of-life cash
assistance. Because any help I can get would be great. I reapplied for food
stamps already to cut costs on food. I still think it's smart to take every
possible step to cut costs, you know? And cushion us.
I'm stressed, but at least not having to stress about what's happening at
home, you know? All of this is new and we're doing it basically alone.
She is coherent. I guess, strokes do damage to the brain? So conversation
is hard. Her sight and speech, and even hearing, were all not that great
before the stroke because of diabetes, and also she's just getting really
old, you know? I don't know what I'd do if she dies before I make it out
there. I still need to request off work. I can't just up and leave. To risk
losing my job would be just not a smart move. I'm just trying to figure
things out as I go. As I gather for info from family (my Uncle who she's
staying with now).
I think I should also, like you said, really promote my Ko-Fi link. I have
had some donations via Ko-Fi. I thought about selling some writing too.
It's a lot to digest. I need to do a lot of research to figure out wtf I'm
doing.
Life happens so fast. And each moment, when you think there is time for
rest, poof, there it goes! I'm still kind of not believing how things
turned out. I'm the last living relative that is in contact with my
Grandma. I have no siblings and my Mother, her only child, like I
mentioned, wants nothing to do with her after an event that took place last
year (she left her without saying a word...long story short), and now
EVERYTHING is in my name. The assess from the property sale, life insurance
policy, all assets. Her house sold for over 750K. Her life insurance is
probably 150K+ It's a lot of assets. Probably a lot of personal savings.
She was a frugal person. Wanted to save for her future of her family.
I feel a lot of pressure to not fuck this up. I have to do the right thing
when this is all over. Learn how to invest and buy a modest house. Since
she sold hers so we could have a house. Look at my debt. Etc.
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Date: 2018-08-02 04:45 pm (UTC)<3 I would do the same for you. At this moment though, thankfully, crisis is averted! Yesterday, my landlord offered to return as much of my security deposit (9K total) as we needed to pull us through this event. Travel and missed work (loss of pay). She returned Aug. rent and said she'd pull it from our deposit, but likely "just don't worry about it". I feel so blessed, not only that I COULD put down such a big security deposit, for moments like this, but also that I was privileged enough to have family who can help create that security for me, and a landlord who is so kind and merciful.
Thats what Im thinking, though, still. Calling the church she used to attend all her life, and see if they could offer end-of-life cash assistance. Because any help I can get would be great. I reapplied for food stamps already to cut costs on food. I still think it's smart to take every possible step to cut costs, you know? And cushion us.
I'm stressed, but at least not having to stress about what's happening at home, you know? All of this is new and we're doing it basically alone.
She is coherent. I guess, strokes do damage to the brain? So conversation is hard. Her sight and speech, and even hearing, were all not that great before the stroke because of diabetes, and also she's just getting really old, you know? I don't know what I'd do if she dies before I make it out there. I still need to request off work. I can't just up and leave. To risk losing my job would be just not a smart move. I'm just trying to figure things out as I go. As I gather for info from family (my Uncle who she's staying with now).
I think I should also, like you said, really promote my Ko-Fi link. I have had some donations via Ko-Fi. I thought about selling some writing too.
It's a lot to digest. I need to do a lot of research to figure out wtf I'm doing.
Life happens so fast. And each moment, when you think there is time for rest, poof, there it goes! I'm still kind of not believing how things turned out. I'm the last living relative that is in contact with my Grandma. I have no siblings and my Mother, her only child, like I mentioned, wants nothing to do with her after an event that took place last year (she left her without saying a word...long story short), and now EVERYTHING is in my name. The assess from the property sale, life insurance policy, all assets. Her house sold for over 750K. Her life insurance is probably 150K+ It's a lot of assets. Probably a lot of personal savings. She was a frugal person. Wanted to save for her future of her family.
I feel a lot of pressure to not fuck this up. I have to do the right thing when this is all over. Learn how to invest and buy a modest house. Since she sold hers so we could have a house. Look at my debt. Etc.