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december_solsticeI think us not being able to do that in 2015 is a real mystery. We consume so much porn, yet we can't talk about our own wants and desires. At the same time, we are struggling with providing humans the necessary education and tools to protect themselves from STI's and pregnancy. This is not a good look, yall.
Why is sex still taboo in 2015?
Why is it so difficult for us to talk about sex in a way that makes us comfortable and helps us learn about our bodies and sexuality?
I've mentioned a little bit about my sex life a while back, and really, sex is a big part of my life! I am generally very open about it with my girlfriends. My husband and I...we throw down in the bedroom. When I have a new and exciting experience, I want to share it. I want my girlfriends to experience the same!
Too often do women believe sex is for men. No, sex is for us too. Big girls. Skinny girls. All of us. The married ones, the single ones. All of us.
POP PUSSIES AND BABIES OUT
Here is a little background on us:
We've been together for almost 12 years and been sexually active for about 11 1/2. We are very much obsessed with each other. I would say even more today than as teenagers. Which is hard to believe, right?!
We;re both on the chubby side, and have always been. We've actually grown especially round over the last decade. LOL! College weight. Marriage weight. You know how it goes...
But, being on the bigger side, we've had to do a lot of adjusting, a lot of finding what works for us and what REALLY REALLY works for us. When you're a bit on the heavier side, traditional sex positions may not work as well for you without being altered -- something that we'd learned over the years. For example, yes, we both adore doggy style for the deep penetration and overall control, but it doesn't work so well on a mattress because we sink in too far due to our weight. (The memory-foam doesn't help either.) So instead, I put my knees on my edge of the bed and he stands. Also, cowgirl (woman-on-top) does not work so effortlessly for us because my legs are short and his hips are just too wide.
When my girlfriends, especially those who are on the bigger side are struggling with their sex lives, I want to give them tips that really work for me but the awkward shame/shyness gets in the way. I want to be able to tell a friend "try this -- guaranteed multiple/extended orgasms!"
I want to be able to tell them they need to keep their back arched and butt up. But, this is not easy to say! At all. I don't even tell my girlfriends I've been up all night having sex. You know what I tell them instead? I've been up late "romancing". LOL!
How can we be open and honest about the good sex and the bad sex and how we can improve? How can we help each other in the bedroom without that super weird awkwardness?
Why is sex still taboo in 2015?
Why is it so difficult for us to talk about sex in a way that makes us comfortable and helps us learn about our bodies and sexuality?
I've mentioned a little bit about my sex life a while back, and really, sex is a big part of my life! I am generally very open about it with my girlfriends. My husband and I...we throw down in the bedroom. When I have a new and exciting experience, I want to share it. I want my girlfriends to experience the same!
Too often do women believe sex is for men. No, sex is for us too. Big girls. Skinny girls. All of us. The married ones, the single ones. All of us.
POP PUSSIES AND BABIES OUT
Here is a little background on us:
We've been together for almost 12 years and been sexually active for about 11 1/2. We are very much obsessed with each other. I would say even more today than as teenagers. Which is hard to believe, right?!
We;re both on the chubby side, and have always been. We've actually grown especially round over the last decade. LOL! College weight. Marriage weight. You know how it goes...
But, being on the bigger side, we've had to do a lot of adjusting, a lot of finding what works for us and what REALLY REALLY works for us. When you're a bit on the heavier side, traditional sex positions may not work as well for you without being altered -- something that we'd learned over the years. For example, yes, we both adore doggy style for the deep penetration and overall control, but it doesn't work so well on a mattress because we sink in too far due to our weight. (The memory-foam doesn't help either.) So instead, I put my knees on my edge of the bed and he stands. Also, cowgirl (woman-on-top) does not work so effortlessly for us because my legs are short and his hips are just too wide.
When my girlfriends, especially those who are on the bigger side are struggling with their sex lives, I want to give them tips that really work for me but the awkward shame/shyness gets in the way. I want to be able to tell a friend "try this -- guaranteed multiple/extended orgasms!"
I want to be able to tell them they need to keep their back arched and butt up. But, this is not easy to say! At all. I don't even tell my girlfriends I've been up all night having sex. You know what I tell them instead? I've been up late "romancing". LOL!
How can we be open and honest about the good sex and the bad sex and how we can improve? How can we help each other in the bedroom without that super weird awkwardness?
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Date: 2015-09-30 03:06 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2015-09-30 03:23 am (UTC)I remember when someone tried to tell my wife that all porn (ALL) was for men. Hellooo, have you heard of 50 Shades of Grey or read some fanfic?
I don't mind not talking about things but it's no good when that causes ignorance, like all these kids who've never learnt about sex so they think the only problem is potential pregnancy (and not STDs). And not talking about it causes an actual fixation on it - anything you mark as forbidden territory...
You can watch some porn together and talk about it as you go, I dunno.
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Date: 2015-09-30 03:30 am (UTC)I am not really a porn gal myself, but watching porn together with your partner or showing a friend an example (with porn) is totally an option. I've actually done this I think -- couldn't explain something with words, so I showed a friend a porno.
Interestingly enough, most women actually watch lesbian porn. I can't remember the exact reason why...but something along the lines that it's dedicated to the female pleasure/arousal. It's focused on pleasuring the woman, which is a given, since there is only women. Lol.
All other porn is often geared towards the male viewer and male pleasure. Way too many blow jobs, imo. Every porno has a blow job in it. Every single one! Probably less than half of them have a dude eating a girl out. And if so, it's really lame (lol) and it lasts...2 seconds :/ Whenever I do watch porn I just skip right to the penetration lmfao
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Date: 2015-09-30 03:33 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-09-30 12:29 pm (UTC)—————— Unrelated:
These videos are pretty funny, they have English subs (I like almost all of these guys' videos). Their thing is exaggerration and they especially love to make fun of American movies, so in a couple of them there is some blood but it's not that bad. They're all just a few minutes long:
On sex/being gay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4wNGsQgEPiE
Then there's this one about net-trolls: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MuweVvnVu2o
Unemployment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BL-3QvC6bq4
Sexist society pt 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gImPB1jzvSY
pt 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjZpk4yTEcg
Those who are desperate to date: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hR-glMu7NZw
Hopping on the bandwagon / material society: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhEpMJ3n_wU