Yeah, I figured you deleted it since you mentioned that in the post. I saw
it earlier in the day, and actually typed up a reply, but didn't get around
to uploading it until you deleted it. LOL.
I don't blame you for wanting to distance yourself, and tbh, I think you
should. You're super resilient, special even ( though we both know it
shouldn't be THIS rare to find someone like yourself) but, of course,
you're still human, and I think it's fantastic that you can at least
recognize these influences. You get A LOT of negative influence thrown at
you, at home too, but this you can sort of control. You can control the
people you follow/interact with online, etc. I had thought a lot about
moving overseas since the Trump campaign. I think I mentioned it to you - I
wanted to try and immigrate to your country.
Frankly, I haven't met ANYONE, (and I've said this already I'm pretty
sure), I haven't met a single person like you. And, it's probably because
I'm American LMFAO. As cliche as it sounds, it really is inspirational. I
think, hey, if you're doing you, I can do me too, you know? If you're doing
all of this, under your circumstances, I can too. And, it's really is nice
to have someone to relate to in ways I really can't with most people. I
mean, I don't know anyone who would even consider doing or making time for
creative work or work on various projects. Because it's work. Fuck, it's
probably more work than their jobs, you know? But, I genuinely want to work
hard on these things. This is what I do, who I am, etc. and why not do
something I love, I'm good at - something productive, that has purpose and
meaning for my future... than do nothing at all?
I think you have a real knack for languages/language learning/teaching -
like, I've said this already I'm sure, and it's not because I'm a friend,
but I saw it when I read part of your language book you shared with me. I
thought, immediately, you're onto something here. I'm dyslexic, and many
suggest it's impossible for me to pick up other languages (probably not
entirely true, I mean, I can read and write just fine now), but things were
literally clicking in my brain! Like, it's a big deal.
You don't necessarily need to give up English. I mean, it's still great
that it's your first language. Lots of people all over the world speak
English, and it's ironically, it's probably going to be your strongest
connection to all types of people.
I had no clue that the U.S. had that big of a influence internationally,
but then I thought, well, everyone I know who lives overseas uses the same
websites - a lot of the same media - Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter, Reddit,
Netflix...
I'm still going to stick to Facebook just because I don't want to lose the
connections I have to back home, but I may actually heavily purge my
friends list. Even now, I recently returned to Tumblr, and again, I want to
purge my follow list. LOL.
Let's definately stay connected while you're in Japan. I hope you take a
lot of pictures and blog a little bit (or vlog?) so I can keep up with your
adventures! I'm super excited for you, and I know it's going to open doors
and opportunities. If you do suspect you may fall off the face of the
earth, do you want to like...exchange phone numbers? I don't really use my
phone, but at least then we won't possibly lose touch.
"I'm tired of dealing with hopeless people." I feel that 100%, and I always
thought it was me. This is what always ends up ruining relationships for
me. :/ I get it. Like, for me, I want to have meaningful connections with
people who really compliment who I am. I want to feel like we're helping
each other be better and achieve more. I want to be friends with people who
are doing things because that's only going to inspire me, and back and
forth, we're constantly motivating each other. I should put this on a
dating website. LMFAO!!!!!
Like, I mentioned earlier, this is kind of where I am now with my BFF.
Like, I've been there. I've tried to help and motivate her, but she doesn't
hear it/me. She chooses all of this, instead, and it basically turns me off
to a point where I don't really care what she does because nothing I say
will really matter anyway. And, it's all very common problems, the same
ones you speak of. She thinks she's poor, and I mean, by the numbers, yeah,
sure, but she is in no way going without. Her daughter's father pays enough
child support to take care of their basic needs. She blew her entire tax
refund, and just to put it into perspective, she had enough money to pay
her rent for nearly 6 months. BUT, she ended up buying a massive TV she
didn't need...? She already had a nice size TV. She thinks she's good
with money, because she doesn't have any debt (logic...), and manages to
make it until her next paycheck. She has the time and money to have
hobbies, be in school (think about her future), be eating VERY well, and
staying active. But, the truth is, she's just not quite there...she spends
too much money on clothes, makeup, dumb shit really, and eating out (when,
in fact, she has food stamp money just piling up...dude, PILING UP). She's
lazy and depressed and I'm convinced it's because she doesn't do anything,
and her diet is so bad. I'm pretty torn because I do love her, and we had
such a fantastic friendship at one point. Where I am right now, I feel like
I just don't have it in me right now to do more than meet her halfway.
Do I let myself suffer with her? It doesn't seem right. And, the same
applies to everyone else, like my Dad, for example! Am I obligated to deal
with it, you know? I want to say no.
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Date: 2017-06-16 03:47 am (UTC)Yeah, I figured you deleted it since you mentioned that in the post. I saw it earlier in the day, and actually typed up a reply, but didn't get around to uploading it until you deleted it. LOL.
I don't blame you for wanting to distance yourself, and tbh, I think you should. You're super resilient, special even ( though we both know it shouldn't be THIS rare to find someone like yourself) but, of course, you're still human, and I think it's fantastic that you can at least recognize these influences. You get A LOT of negative influence thrown at you, at home too, but this you can sort of control. You can control the people you follow/interact with online, etc. I had thought a lot about moving overseas since the Trump campaign. I think I mentioned it to you - I wanted to try and immigrate to your country.
Frankly, I haven't met ANYONE, (and I've said this already I'm pretty sure), I haven't met a single person like you. And, it's probably because I'm American LMFAO. As cliche as it sounds, it really is inspirational. I think, hey, if you're doing you, I can do me too, you know? If you're doing all of this, under your circumstances, I can too. And, it's really is nice to have someone to relate to in ways I really can't with most people. I mean, I don't know anyone who would even consider doing or making time for creative work or work on various projects. Because it's work. Fuck, it's probably more work than their jobs, you know? But, I genuinely want to work hard on these things. This is what I do, who I am, etc. and why not do something I love, I'm good at - something productive, that has purpose and meaning for my future... than do nothing at all?
I think you have a real knack for languages/language learning/teaching - like, I've said this already I'm sure, and it's not because I'm a friend, but I saw it when I read part of your language book you shared with me. I thought, immediately, you're onto something here. I'm dyslexic, and many suggest it's impossible for me to pick up other languages (probably not entirely true, I mean, I can read and write just fine now), but things were literally clicking in my brain! Like, it's a big deal.
You don't necessarily need to give up English. I mean, it's still great that it's your first language. Lots of people all over the world speak English, and it's ironically, it's probably going to be your strongest connection to all types of people.
I had no clue that the U.S. had that big of a influence internationally, but then I thought, well, everyone I know who lives overseas uses the same websites - a lot of the same media - Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter, Reddit, Netflix...
I'm still going to stick to Facebook just because I don't want to lose the connections I have to back home, but I may actually heavily purge my friends list. Even now, I recently returned to Tumblr, and again, I want to purge my follow list. LOL.
Let's definately stay connected while you're in Japan. I hope you take a lot of pictures and blog a little bit (or vlog?) so I can keep up with your adventures! I'm super excited for you, and I know it's going to open doors and opportunities. If you do suspect you may fall off the face of the earth, do you want to like...exchange phone numbers? I don't really use my phone, but at least then we won't possibly lose touch.
"I'm tired of dealing with hopeless people." I feel that 100%, and I always thought it was me. This is what always ends up ruining relationships for me. :/ I get it. Like, for me, I want to have meaningful connections with people who really compliment who I am. I want to feel like we're helping each other be better and achieve more. I want to be friends with people who are doing things because that's only going to inspire me, and back and forth, we're constantly motivating each other. I should put this on a dating website. LMFAO!!!!!
Like, I mentioned earlier, this is kind of where I am now with my BFF. Like, I've been there. I've tried to help and motivate her, but she doesn't hear it/me. She chooses all of this, instead, and it basically turns me off to a point where I don't really care what she does because nothing I say will really matter anyway. And, it's all very common problems, the same ones you speak of. She thinks she's poor, and I mean, by the numbers, yeah, sure, but she is in no way going without. Her daughter's father pays enough child support to take care of their basic needs. She blew her entire tax refund, and just to put it into perspective, she had enough money to pay her rent for nearly 6 months. BUT, she ended up buying a massive TV she didn't need...? She already had a nice size TV. She thinks she's good with money, because she doesn't have any debt (logic...), and manages to make it until her next paycheck. She has the time and money to have hobbies, be in school (think about her future), be eating VERY well, and staying active. But, the truth is, she's just not quite there...she spends too much money on clothes, makeup, dumb shit really, and eating out (when, in fact, she has food stamp money just piling up...dude, PILING UP). She's lazy and depressed and I'm convinced it's because she doesn't do anything, and her diet is so bad. I'm pretty torn because I do love her, and we had such a fantastic friendship at one point. Where I am right now, I feel like I just don't have it in me right now to do more than meet her halfway. Do I let myself suffer with her? It doesn't seem right. And, the same applies to everyone else, like my Dad, for example! Am I obligated to deal with it, you know? I want to say no.