Yeah, I might have turned into an alcoholic or something if it weren't for my wife. And also for that I'm perpetually broke. When I feel really bad I just drown myself in anime/manga/reading.
When I'm stressed, focused or depressed I don't eat. It's not intentional, but my appetite just completely disappears. It seems like my wife is the opposite and eats when she feels worried or something, which isn't something I knew until veeeery recently but it certainly helps to explain why she's "never been able to lose weight".
In both cases with us I think it stems from upbringing. Among other things, I wasn't taught that it was bad to skip meals ("If you don't like what's for dinner, don't eat" "Okay") and both me and my brother did stuff like skipped lunch at school in order to save the lunch money because we didn't get an allowance. Meanwhile my wife's mom and grandma both eat to comfort themselves, and in general in Sweden "good food being one of life's few joys" plays a huge part in their culture... And her family never tried to stop her from doing obvious self-harm or even from making herself throw up (she didn't hide these things).
I easily fall into escapism and get addicted to the computer, the end result is that I feel like I'm not really life or that I'd rather just be a piece of wallpaper so that no one talks to me. I don't want to be this way! I've been hoping for years that I'm just at a temporary point in my life and that whenever I get a job and have enough money to do stuff, I'll break away from things like the internet a whole lot more and just be alive for a while.... If we can at least move out of my wife's parents' place then we'll both be a lot less depressed and hopefully that will help in some ways.
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When I'm stressed, focused or depressed I don't eat. It's not intentional, but my appetite just completely disappears. It seems like my wife is the opposite and eats when she feels worried or something, which isn't something I knew until veeeery recently but it certainly helps to explain why she's "never been able to lose weight".
In both cases with us I think it stems from upbringing. Among other things, I wasn't taught that it was bad to skip meals ("If you don't like what's for dinner, don't eat" "Okay") and both me and my brother did stuff like skipped lunch at school in order to save the lunch money because we didn't get an allowance. Meanwhile my wife's mom and grandma both eat to comfort themselves, and in general in Sweden "good food being one of life's few joys" plays a huge part in their culture... And her family never tried to stop her from doing obvious self-harm or even from making herself throw up (she didn't hide these things).
I easily fall into escapism and get addicted to the computer, the end result is that I feel like I'm not really life or that I'd rather just be a piece of wallpaper so that no one talks to me. I don't want to be this way! I've been hoping for years that I'm just at a temporary point in my life and that whenever I get a job and have enough money to do stuff, I'll break away from things like the internet a whole lot more and just be alive for a while.... If we can at least move out of my wife's parents' place then we'll both be a lot less depressed and hopefully that will help in some ways.