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december_solstice) wrote2015-09-17 09:57 pm
december_solstice) wrote2015-09-17 09:57 pm
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Why do we care about what other people think of us?
For a minute, I was really interested in psych tests. Especially those you can do effortlessly online.
Anywho, some time ago I asked my husband, parents, and a few close friends to select (in the test) 5 of my good qualities and 5 of my bad ones. Even though this happened forever ago, I'm still thinking about the results.
Two things really stood out for me:
1. Everyone thinks differently about me Everyone. Everyone perceives me differently.
2. Even though there were several negative qualities that were listed, there was only ONE that bothered me. A friend, selected "irresponsible."
I couldn't believe it, to be honest. I didn't think she thought of me as irresponsible. In fact, I believed she thought the exact opposite -- that I was very responsible. IN FACT, what is so odd, is the fact that I think she's irresponsible and makes somewhat poor choices. If I were in her shoes, I would do things very differently.
You're probably thinking "irresponsibility" is nothing.
This bothers me a lot. I don't know why. I mean, of course I'm not perfect, but I feel like I make decent decisions and all of my risks are calculated. I think I have my priorities in check. Question is, why does this bother me so much? What if I am irresponsible? Is that really that bad? So what if someone else thinks I make bad choices. So what if people think I'm a bum (LOL), does it really matter. I mean, I kind of am a bum, yall.
Anywho, here is a song by Ice Cube. Lol. Are you hype now? I am.
I'm curious -- what would you consider the biggest insult? For me, I'd feel pretty shitty if someone called me unintelligent or irresponsible. What about you?
Anywho, some time ago I asked my husband, parents, and a few close friends to select (in the test) 5 of my good qualities and 5 of my bad ones. Even though this happened forever ago, I'm still thinking about the results.
Two things really stood out for me:
1. Everyone thinks differently about me Everyone. Everyone perceives me differently.
2. Even though there were several negative qualities that were listed, there was only ONE that bothered me. A friend, selected "irresponsible."
I couldn't believe it, to be honest. I didn't think she thought of me as irresponsible. In fact, I believed she thought the exact opposite -- that I was very responsible. IN FACT, what is so odd, is the fact that I think she's irresponsible and makes somewhat poor choices. If I were in her shoes, I would do things very differently.
You're probably thinking "irresponsibility" is nothing.
This bothers me a lot. I don't know why. I mean, of course I'm not perfect, but I feel like I make decent decisions and all of my risks are calculated. I think I have my priorities in check. Question is, why does this bother me so much? What if I am irresponsible? Is that really that bad? So what if someone else thinks I make bad choices. So what if people think I'm a bum (LOL), does it really matter. I mean, I kind of am a bum, yall.
Anywho, here is a song by Ice Cube. Lol. Are you hype now? I am.
I'm curious -- what would you consider the biggest insult? For me, I'd feel pretty shitty if someone called me unintelligent or irresponsible. What about you?